USA Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Set Your Private Message Rules

Americans are a chatty bunch, and a popular name can attract a stream of private messages within minutes. The choice on this screen limits that stream. Tick whichever groups you'd welcome a one-to-one message from. Anybody else is still free to reply where everyone can see, yet a private conversation needs your say-so.

Share a state or a time zone, never a street or employer. That rule of thumb protects you here and in all our chat rooms online.

Looking for someone in your own region? Say "anyone in Texas?" in the room rather than messaging people cold. It works well in the free chat rooms online too, when the US room is slow.

USA Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I choose more than one group?

Yes, as many as you like.

How much location should I share?

A state or time zone is plenty. Keep your town and street private.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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