UK Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

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Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

You Decide Who Gets In Touch

British reserve doesn't always survive the internet, so this screen gives you a bit of control. Choose which sorts of people may send you a private message. Everybody can still chat with you in the main room. Anyone you leave unticked simply can't open a one-to-one conversation without your permission.

Feel free to say you're "up north" or "near Bristol", but keep your postcode, street and employer to yourself, a habit worth keeping in all our online chat rooms.

Met someone decent? Chat in the open first, then take it private. If the UK room is quiet, any free chat room here uses exactly the same settings.

UK Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I select several groups?

Yes, as many as you like.

How much should I say about where I live?

A region is plenty. Keep your town and street private.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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