Singles Chat Online: Choose Who You Talk To

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Decide Who Can Reach You

This is the step that matters most in a singles chat. Choose which groups can send you private messages, one or several, or Everyone. People outside your choice can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you unless you allow it. That keeps your attention on conversations you actually want.

Singles who do well here tend to talk in the room first and message privately later. It's slower, but replies are warmer. The same filters apply if you drift into our free chat rooms online.

Use the usual sense: don't share your number or address early, and never send money to someone you've met online. If a conversation feels off, block first and ask questions later. All our online chat rooms use the same tools.

Singles Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't choose message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I pick more than one group?

Yes, as many as you like.

What should I do if someone asks for money?

Block and report them. Nobody you've met in chat needs money from you.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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