Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Keep Your Inbox Under Control

In a busy online chat, private messages can arrive faster than you can read them. This step decides who's allowed to send one. Tick the groups you're happy to hear from, or choose Everyone. Others can still reply to you in the open lobby, but their private messages are blocked or held in a request list.

If you're new, keep it narrow and widen it once you know the room. Your choice carries across the whole site, from this lobby to anonymous chat and the regional rooms.

Good conversations usually start in the open room and move to private messages later. That's true here and in every one of our free chat rooms.

Online Chat Filters: FAQ

Who can message me if I don't change anything?

Only the groups you select here. Pick Everyone to leave it open.

Can I select more than one?

Yes. Select as many as you like.

How do I stop someone who's bothering me?

Tap their name and block them. Report harassment or spam as well.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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