LGBT Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Your Inbox, Your Rules

This step lets you decide who can open a private chat with you. Pick one group, several, or Everyone. People you didn't choose can still talk in the open room, but their private messages are blocked or held. For many people in the LGBT chat online, that control is what makes the room feel safe.

If anyone is hostile or tries to out someone, block and report straight away. Those tools work the same here as in all our online chat rooms.

Conversations often start in the open room and move to private messages once there's trust. If you'd like a general room as well, the online chat lobby is busy most evenings.

LGBT Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I choose several groups?

Yes, as many as you like.

What happens when I report someone?

Moderators review the report. Blocking also stops them reaching you straight away.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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