Friends Chat: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Friendly Doesn't Mean Open to Everyone

You can be friendly and still choose who gets to message you privately. This step does that. Pick the groups you'd like to hear from, one or many, or Everyone. People you didn't pick can still chat with you in the room, but their private messages are blocked or wait in a request list.

Friendships tend to start in the open room anyway, so a narrow filter rarely costs you anything. The same setting applies in our free chat rooms with no registration and the interest rooms.

If someone you've started chatting with asks for money or personal details, that's not friendship. Block and report them. The tools work the same in every online chat room here.

Friends Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I pick more than one group?

Yes, as many as you like.

What if a new friend asks for money?

Don't send it. Block and report the account.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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