Free Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
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Male
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  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Filters That Keep Free Chat Pleasant

Free chat online gets busy, and the busiest part is usually your private messages. This step lets you decide who can open one with you. Choose one group, several, or Everyone. People outside your choice can still reply to you in the open room, but their private messages are blocked or held so you can look at them when you want.

A tight filter on your first visit is sensible. You'll still see the whole conversation in the room, and you can open things up once you know how it feels. The same filters work across all our free chat rooms online, so you set them once.

If you'd like conversation without picking a room at all, try random chat. It pairs you with whoever is around, and the filter you choose here still applies.

Private Message Filters: FAQ

Can people outside my choice message me?

Only if you allow it. They can still talk to you in the open room.

Can I choose more than one group?

Yes. Pick as many as you like, or choose Everyone.

What happens to blocked messages?

Blocked private messages never reach you. Moderated ones wait in a request list.

Can I change this later?

Yes. Go back and change it before you enter.

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