Dating Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Only Hear From the People You Want

Dating chat online works much better when your inbox only holds messages you're glad to get. This step sets that up. Choose the groups who can start a private chat with you, as many as you like. Everyone else can still talk to you in the open room, but their private messages are blocked or held.

Most people start fairly narrow and open up later. It's your call, and you can change it before you enter. The same filter follows you into our other chat rooms online.

Watch for the usual warning signs: pressure to move to another app quickly, sad stories that end with a money request, or questions about where you live. Block, report and carry on. Our free chat rooms all share the same block and report tools.

Dating Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people outside my choice still message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I select more than one group?

Yes, or tap Everyone.

What if someone pushes me to switch apps?

You don't have to. Staying in on-site private messages keeps block and report available.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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