Talk to Strangers on Your Terms

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Decide Which Strangers Can Message You

Talking to strangers is more fun when you choose who gets to start a private conversation. This step sets that. Pick the groups you're happy to hear from, or Everyone if you'd like it open. Anyone outside your choice can still chat with you in the room, but they can't fill your inbox.

In a room built for meeting new people, private messages arrive fast. A narrow filter on your first visit gives you time to watch how the room works. The same setting follows you to any of our online chat rooms.

Want someone picked for you instead? Random chat matches you with whoever is online right now, and the choice you make here still decides who can message you privately.

Talking to Strangers: FAQ

Can strangers I didn't pick still message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it. They can still reply in the open room.

What's the difference between block and moderate?

Block stops private messages entirely. Moderate puts them in a list you can check.

Can I pick more than one group?

Yes. Choose as many as you like.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter the chat.

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