Online Chat Rooms: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

Start at Step 1 →
Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Private Messages on Your Terms

Every free chat room has two sides: the open conversation everyone can read, and private one-to-one messages. This step controls the second part. Choose which groups can start a private chat with you, as many as you like, or tap Everyone. Anyone else can still reply to you in the room, but their private messages are blocked or held for you to approve.

If it's your first time in online chat rooms, start narrow. It's easier to open up later than to clear out a flooded inbox. The quickest way to make a friend is still the oldest one: say something in the open free online chat before sending anyone a private message.

Prefer to be surprised? Random chat pairs you with whoever's online, and this filter still decides who can message you privately.

Chat Room Message Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Only if you allow it. Blocking stops their private messages; moderating puts them in a request list you can check.

Can I pick more than one?

Yes. Select as many as you like, or tap Everyone.

How do I block someone in a chat room?

Tap their chat name and choose block. Use report as well for harassment, spam or requests for money.

Can I change this later?

Yes. You can go back and change it before you enter the chat.

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