Over 50 Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

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Everyone!
Female
Male
Trans
Couple
Other
  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Keep Private Messages Under Your Control

This page lets you decide who may write to you privately. Tick just the groups you want, or allow everyone. People outside your selection can still talk with you in the main conversation, so you won't miss out, but private messages from them won't get through.

If you're not sure, choose fewer groups. You can always come back and change this before you enter. It applies in our free online chat rooms too.

Sadly, some people target older chatters with hard-luck stories. Never send money, gift card numbers or bank details to someone from a chat room. Report them instead, as you can in all our online chat rooms.

Over 50 Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I choose more than one group?

Yes, as many as you like.

What if someone asks for money?

Don't send it. Block and report them straight away.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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