Over 40 Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You (Step 2)

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

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Everyone!

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Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

You Choose Who Gets Through

Decide which kinds of people can send you a direct message. You might want to hear only from others in your age group, or from everybody. Those left out can still join any public conversation with you, but a private chat isn't open to them.

Most regulars here prefer a selective inbox. Your choice also carries into our chat rooms online.

Scammers know this age group often has savings. Treat any money request, however heartfelt, as a reason to block and report. Those buttons are the same in every free chat room.