Over 30 Chat Online: Choose Who Can Message You

Pick who you'd like to chat with. Choose as many as you like.

Who do you want to chat with?

Start at step 1 to set up your chat — it only takes a few seconds.

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Everyone!
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Male
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  • Completely block unselected genders from private messaging me. Anyone outside the genders you picked can still talk in the open room, but they can't open a private chat with you at all.
  • Moderate contact from unselected genders. Private messages from genders you didn't pick go to a separate request list instead of popping up. You can accept or ignore them in your own time.
  • Block unselected genders who are guests (no account). Only applies to guests outside your chosen genders. Registered members can still reach you; throwaway guest names can't.

Less Noise, Better Conversations

Thirty-somethings tend to value their time, and this setting protects it. Decide here who may contact you privately: a single group, a mix, or anyone at all. Unticked people remain free to talk to you publicly but can't start a private thread.

Your filter follows you elsewhere on the site, including our free chat rooms online.

Watch for requests that come too fast: gift cards, bank details, a sudden emergency. Block and report, as you would in any online chat room.

Over 30 Chat Filters: FAQ

Can people I didn't pick message me?

Not privately, unless you allow it.

Can I choose more than one group?

Yes, as many as you like.

What if someone asks for money?

Don't send it. Block and report them.

Can I change this later?

Yes, before you enter.

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